It's nice to have companionship, but lately, I've been wondering, "At what cost?" I've recently noticed that nearly all of my new female friends here in PDX have some kind of deep issues or difficulties in their lives. I know I have some issues, but the problems that these women face are much greater than mine. I hate to air their personal business, so I won't include any details, but they either dealt with serious medical issues, death, or, on the more prosaic side, flakiness (although SK suspects bipolar disorder or schizophrenia).
As I reflect on this, I realize the situation is pretty funny. I'm not sure how I've managed to put together such a motley crue. Actually, none of them have met each other (about three women so far), but frankly, I'm afraid to introduce them.
Why can't I meet any normal women? I know, I know... What is "normal", right? But I guess what I'm really looking for is someone who I feel I can relate to. And there is certainly something each of these women have that I have in common with. One recently moved to Portland with her husband and 15-month-old daughter, just around the time we did. The other is an ex-New Yorker, just like me. And the other is Korean-American.
I guess I'm looking for someone I have more in common with than just these minor things and I guess it'll take time!
2 comments:
kindred spirits are hard to find anyhow anywhere. but at least you're making friends. plus, you've always had such different friends.. and that's a GOOD thing!
anyways, we gotta talk! it's been so long.
maybe you should move back to the east coast... somewhere like Boston with lots of asians and ppl in the medical profession. ha ha!
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